Imagine pulling your resume up on the computer—and deleting it. Did your brain say “ouch” at the very thought of electronically crumpling up the piece of paper that claims to know everything you’re good at and that you should be striving for?
The resume is a handy tool to get a job, and it’s also a confining piece of paper that can spark feelings of anxiety, inadequacy, and dissatisfaction. Even withoutRead More
Despite any tricks your brain pulls, it can be helpful to remember that wants can’t be discovered in worries. Worries masquerade inside our heads as being caring, ambitious, and more “on it.” Are they really helping, though?
Worrying is the mind’s attempt to exert more control over situations that feel uncertain or uncontrollable to us. With enough worry, we imagine we can tease apartRead More
In today’s heavily social (media) world, sometimes a “Too Cool for School” craze catches on. What’s “too cool for school?” You stop wanting to learn and experience life. Why? Because you’re already being told what’s “cool.”
All of us are exposed to this phenomenon today over the internet, pads, phones, and myriad devices. It’s worth challenging the net-like peer pressure to keepRead More
The question goes, “If a tree falls and no one hears it, does it still make a sound?” I’ll shake this question up a bit and ask, “If you experience or see something, and no one else responds to it—did it still happen?”
At one time or another, each of us faces a situation in which we strongly experience something that no one else responds to. Know the feeling? Without anyone else echoing what you saw or felt, you may wonderRead More
Imagine you’re facing a door, and on the other side of that door is change. In order to move forward you have to open the door without really knowing what’s on the other side. The change is invisible to you from where you’re standing, and the only way to see it is by opening the door. Will you open it?
Often, doors to change become visible to us at times when we’re ready for them. They’re not always there, but when they appear they challenge us to make theRead More
Why is perfect the enemy of good? Think about it. The message of “perfect” is that you’ll someday attain a status beyond which there’s no point of trying, or learning, or growing. If you’re perfect already, what’s the point of interacting with life and getting something out of it?
“Perfect” tricks you into believing that there is a solution and an endpoint. Do you think that any individual in theRead More
During life, most of us hold our breath and wait for a time that finally feels calm and accommodating to who we are. Do you know the feeling? We work, try, and grapple, hoping that times will change and things will get easier. After small periods of calm, we’re usually thrown back into the mix of stress and ups and downs. Just as you’re waiting to get off an emotional roller coaster, life often buys you a ticket for a new one. What’s that about?Read More